You can’t talk about space and relationship in the same sentence, its like water and oil to some people…..”THEY DO NOT MIX”. A lot of people think allowing your other half their personal space is giving them a visa to date someone else.
Personally I disagree, everyone needs their own personal space. Time to be alone, time to be, your own me time is very important. As a couple you need to grow yes but as an individual you need that growth too. I know in a relationship there is that desire to be with each other all the time, seems legit its natural to share our lives with others but personal space is as important as the air in our bodies. We also experience that honeymoon period in all our relationships where we are together all the time but at one point you need to get back to the real world. You have friends, family and your own issues. Do not be that person who is clingy. You can’t even allow your person to take a walk alone, let them do their window shopping alone or even go out with their own friends. Sometimes you have to be alone to sort out your own stuff.
When some people get in a relationship they engage in all their partners interests and activities and forget to pursue their own path ummm that ain’t healthy. Too much space also means you start drifting apart and all that intimacy starts lacking. I think personal space does not mean you don’t include your person in your activities, it means you giving them some space to maintain their relationship with themselves. Balancing togetherness and space is not easy but is vital. Do not smother your partner. The most difficult part is telling your significant other that they are invading your personal space. It seems rude and it may lead to a Word War 3. Now how do you say it without ruining your relationship? How will you know you won’t offend your partner? It is a bit tricky and does not have any formula. I don’t think there is a way you can say it politely. Your person one way or the other will think not take it well.
Almost everyone thinks space gives an opportunity for your person to cheat. I know a lot of people use space as a scapegoat to cheat and have made that word look dirty. Reading a book alone is bad? Going to the gym is bad? Taking a walk is bad ? Meeting up with friends is bad ?
Believe me,I had to learn this the hard way ! Let’s learn to give our loved ones space….but at the same time,loved ones don’t take advantage of this green card extended to you