Romantics claim money can’t buy love. Proving that, though, may not even be possible, since love is not as simple as arithmetic. What has been evident throughout human history, however, is that money does have a power to either make or break a relationship. Those who aren’t driven by greed might believe financial matters will never stand between them and their partner, but sometimes that turns out to be wrong.
When a couple shares the same attitude toward money, their relationship tends to thrive. If a penny-pincher pairs up with a spendthrift, however, it’s a match made in hell! The miser may always sigh at the sight of his improvident partner’s shopping bags, whereas the squanderer can’t help but think her financially prudent lover is such a bore. When faced by this issue, the couple needs to have a serious conversation and try to establish their shared financial goals instead of allowing friction to build up over time.
Many couples find it difficult to talk about their financial disagreements in a calm and open-minded manner. Even a small problem, such as sharing cafeteria bills, can sometimes lead to a vicious shouting match. What many people often fail to recognize is that money isn’t only a tangible matter but also carries emotional weight. According to Dr. Terri Orbuch, a professor of sociology at Oakland University, financial arguments between a couple are not always about the money itself but may have more to do with deeper issues, such as self-esteem and control.
Many committed couples share their income and split their expenses. While this financial strategy may sound optimistic, it could also entangle a couple in a web of conflicts and ultimately wreck their relationship. For example, a wife may be driven to the brink of insanity after learning that her husband has drained their joint account and spent the money on a luxurious car instead of kitchen remodeling. Some people may feel it is unfair that they have to work long hours just to see their unemployed partner spend their money like a drunken sailor. To maintain a healthy relationship, couples who share their wealth should work together to create a budget, set up specific spending rules and always consult each other before any major purchase.
I’m also a victim and perpetrator of such nasty money-dog fights with my better half. And believe me when I say that it is not worth it at all. Our ideology( my spouse and I) are based on the reasoning that since we are now one in the flesh, we should be one in other aspects as well such as decision making, finances etc. This helps weave the bond of matrimony further into a more complex structure that is not easily broken by opposing forces.But that is just my opinion…what say you ?